The Radical Acceptance Project
A 30-day Radical Acceptance challenge for anyone afflicted with something they are struggling to accept. This is to liberate us all from unneeded suffering and pain and provide us with a mindful transformation.
The Radical Acceptance Project came out of a rough patch I was in, with chronic pain, PTSD, financial stress, and relationship grief all hitting hard at once. It felt like I was buried in the stressors and pain of what I had gone through and what I had to deal with every day and in my mind, I kept thinking “this isn’t fair, I shouldn’t have to go through this.” Although I had acknowledged that I didn’t deserve the trauma, illness, and disabilities, I hadn’t accepted the reality that I did have them, no matter what I was thinking. I realized that it was time for me to accept my reality. To do aid myself and others along this journey, I created this project.
Each of us naturally struggles to accept the hardships in our life, but perpetuating this resistance is what causes more pain and suffering at each already difficult situation. Instead of spending energy changing a reality that we can’t, let’s take 30 steps to accept the challenges we have through this project.
The questions are all down below at the bottom of this page.
Radical Acceptance itself is a technique used to end the denial of real and painful situations and to simply accept things as they are, therefore freeing us from unneeded anger, frustration, exhaustion, and worry. Radical Acceptance does not negate or silence any emotions, it simply allows the emotions to be felt and experienced separate from the reality of the situation. Emotions themselves cannot change any situation, and Radical Acceptance knows and practices this philosophy.
Pain from situations cannot be avoided, and Radical Acceptance knows this and empowers us to make a conscious effort to lessen the amount of suffering that comes along with the pain. Resisting reality causes suffering, so Radical Acceptance teaches us to end this resistance.
I use the term “concern” to represent the challenges you are facing, since it’s neutral and applicable. This project can be used for anything from the loss of relationships, to illness, to common stressors in life. Any situation that you cannot control any or most of is applicable here.
To participate, all you need to do is journal—publicly or privately—your responses to each question, one a day. Choose one concern at a time—if you have multiple concerns, it is best to do that the following month, not at the same time. It’s important not to do every question all at once, since each day should be spent reflecting, subconsciously, on the impact of the question. It’s recommended that you write or otherwise record several paragraphs for each response, whenever possible. On a mental level, the requirement of this challenge is true honesty with yourself—the more denial you push through, the more this challenge will benefit you and serve its purpose. You can also write an intention of your day after your response to each question, which will help you set a personal healing goal you can continue for the next 24 hours.
You may choose to share all, some, or none of this with the world, but to spread this healing challenge with others, it’s encouraged that you use the hashtags #ICanAccept and #AcceptanceIsFreedom across your social media platforms when committing yourself to the challenge. When you share this or link back to the challenge (here is the official page), you give others the opportunity to experience the same healing you are undergoing.
If at any time this becomes too impactful or emotional, here’s a list self-care and self-love exercises you can do to recuperate. Most likely, this will be a liberating practice, but with freedom emotions do tend to flow powerfully. Just like you are accepting your concern, accept all the emotions that arise as well.
Much love, light, and healing to each of you! Please don’t hesitate to share your experiences with me, I would love to hear about your journey.
On a personal note, I am dedicating this project to all those who are afflicted with daily trials, whether that is a life situation, illness (physical or mental), or disability. I am using this modality to cope and accept my daily challenges and I hope you are able to find the same solace I have through this. Please let me know if there is anything I can do to make this more accessible, too. (And of course, anyone can use this challenge, I just wanted to have this specific dedication!)
- What is the concern you are hoping to fully and unconditionally accept?
- What is the reality of this concern, in full?
- What are the things that caused this reality to exist?
- Think of your concern, what feelings do you feel right now in this moment?
- What parts of this concern can you not impact or change?
- What parts of this concern can you impact or change, if any?
- What part of this reality are you afraid to accept and why?
- What behaviors are you actively and subconsciously taking to avoid letting go of this concern?
- How will your life be different if you accept this concern?
- What do you believe will happen if you continue to resist accepting your concern’s reality?
- How valid are your beliefs about the changes resistance will bring?
- What do you feel you will need to let go of in order to fully accept this concern (beliefs, mentalities, thoughts, etc)?
- What do you fear will change if you accept this concern?
- What is your ideal life without this concern?
- What is your ideal life with this concern still existing?
- What do you need to give up because of this concern?
- What steps can you take to make your ideal life, even with this concern?
- What emotions come up when you think of fully releasing this concern?
- If you were able to release these emotions, what would change?
- What are you protecting yourself from by not accepting this concern?
- What do you think others will think of you if you accept this concern?
- How will your thoughts change towards yourself if you accept this concern?
- How will your relationships change, for better or worse, if you fully accept this concern?
- What is one negative thing of accepting this concern?
- How important is avoiding this negative outcome for you?
- What is one positive thing of accepting this concern?
- How big will the impact of this positive outcome be for you?
- What extra energy will you have from not fighting this reality and what can you do with this energy?
- Write a detailed description of your life without this concern.
- What steps do you know you need to take in order to fully release your concern, from now on?